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Introduction

Together we want to influence the world around us. With Sharing Lives we have the passion to share our life with the people. Especially in relationships with Muslims. In our work we want to be a part, a link, in someone's life.

Jenny invests in personal relationships by being involved and becoming part of the lives of others. Bert is a bridge builder and creates environments to remove prejudices and thus lower the thresholds in the interaction between the two groups and to strengthen the relationships

Services

Bert has different roles. They all come back to wanting to make connections between people and through people

Bridge builder

Between Christians and Muslims . As a bridge builder I support Muslims and Christians to connect through practical things.
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Consultant

For cross cultural and interreligious issues. As a consultant I deeper, I discuss the theory behind the practice and deal with more complex issues.
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Speaker

About 25 times a year I preach in different churches. I am also a speaker at both Christian and Islamic conferences.
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Trainer

The themes surrounding the training (LINK) are personal relationships and Muslim Christians relationships.
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Author

Writing is a way to put my thoughts into words. When I'm working on a theme for a long time, I like to reproduce it somewhere.
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Marriage consultants

Together with Jenny as marriage experts (LINK). Together we have developed a passion for marriages We think it's important to invest in our own marriage but also in that of others.
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Bridge builder

Between Christians and Muslims . As a bridge builder I support Muslims and Christians to connect through practical things.
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Consultant

For cross cultural and interreligious issues. As a consultant I deeper, I discuss the theory behind the practice and deal with more complex issues.
Read more

Speaker

About 25 times a year I preach in different churches. I am also a speaker at both Christian and Islamic conferences.
Read more

Trainer

The themes surrounding the training (LINK) are personal relationships and Muslim Christians relationships.
Read more

Author

Writing is a way to put my thoughts into words. When I'm working on a theme for a long time, I like to reproduce it somewhere.
Read more

Marriage consultants

Together with Jenny as marriage experts (LINK). Together we have developed a passion for marriages We think it's important to invest in our own marriage but also in that of others.
Read more

Overview courses

The training courses were created to make bridge building practical. The courses can be divided into two pillars: 

Cross cultural trainings

Cross cultural trainings: these aim to build a bridge between the Islamic and the Christian culture back and forth. They are practical courses on shifting boundaries that people have created between each other, between cultures or groups of people with a society.

Family trainings

In addition to building bridges between Christians and Muslims, we also want to build bridges within our personal ones relationships. To strengthen the connection within the family. In marriage or as a role of husband, and father.

Cross cultural trainings

Cross cultural trainings: these aim to build a bridge between the Islamic and the Christian culture back and forth. They are practical courses on shifting boundaries that people have created between each other, between cultures or groups of people with a society.

Family trainings

In addition to building bridges between Christians and Muslims, we also want to build bridges within our personal ones relationships. To strengthen the connection within the family. In marriage or as a role of husband, and father.

Author

Wisdom is Supreme

(2023)

Christ the culmination of the law

(2021)

On the way home, walking as a stranger in the fear of the Lord

(2020)

Sharing Lives Young

(2020)

Sharing lives, overcoming our fear of Islam

(2016)

Sharing lives course book

(2016)

Sharing lives, overcoming our fear of Islam

(2014)

A single hand cannot applaud

(2011)

Testimonials

Maged Welson Pastor Evangelical Arab congregation in Amsterdam East

Bert has an analytical method of preaching that touches the mind and heart of the listener through the Word of God. We learned a lot from him. Bert is also talented in providing marital relationship counseling and couples’ counseling. As a church we still invite Bert to preach. Bert lives what he says in his sermons or writing and is a good example for the others.

Elder congregation church

Bert's sermon always has a clear and biblical theme. He translates the Biblical words in a clear way, making it easy for you to understand and remember. This encourages us to pass on the received message with enthusiasm.

European Evangelical Alliance

Bert de Ruiter cares deeply about those in various ministries with Muslims and believers of a Muslim background. Seeking to build a community so that no one feels alone in ministry, Bert connects networks to learn, share, and support each other. Through Bert’s efforts over the past several years, we connected with others involved in ministering with Muslims.

Rie en Lewalt Eland Participant marriage enrichment weekend

Bert and Jenny have a disarming style, in which you feel seen and recognized. The examples were always personal, but never too heavy-handed. Instructors who can put themselves in perspective are a real blessing. Especially in the good mix between a smile and a tear, a Biblical admonition and an arm around you. Fortunately, with many assignments that you carried out with your partner and the homework that had to be done during the weekend, it really turned out to be a practical weekend. We realized how precious and fragile marriage really is, a wonderful gift.

Participant marriage enrichment weekend Participant marriage enrichment weekend

We experienced it as a good, meaningful and beautiful weekend. It was constructive, deepening strenuous and relaxing at the same time.

Participant marriage enrichment weekend

We should have a refresher course like this every year, because I still benefit from it every day.

Participant marriage enrichment weekend

It was a very nice weekend, you can really see that marriage has your heart and you really radiate that it is important to invest in it.

Lewalt Eland Participant men's meetings

Bert led a series of men's mornings at our church. Bert shared Biblical knowledge, but also shared his own lived experiences. The homework was no less exciting: write a letter to your own father and share it with him if possible. A challenge that was a bit outside my comfort zone, but it has given my bond with my father an enormous depth. Bert really guided us in Biblical knowledge and vulnerability, a combination that is not always obvious in these types of meetings. In addition to Sharing Lives, in my opinion it also became Changing Lives.

Participant Training Approaches to Islam

The course Approaches to Muslims is one of most helpful and comprehensive courses for anyone seeking to learn how to build bridges with Muslims. Students will benefit deeply by the exposure to the rich variety of approaches resulting in their ability to formulate their own approach or approaches to Islam and to Muslims especially in Europe- approaches that are consistent both to the spirit and truth of God found in the Bible. This course is both academically rigorous and profoundly practical. Dr. Bert de Ruiter utilizes substantial academic as well as relevant multi- media, digital resources in teaching this course. As a person, he is academically equipped and he has vast practical experience derived from many years of ministry to and among Muslims.

Participant Training Approaches to Islam

Thank you for your inspiring lessons. It has given us more insight and knowledge about Muslims!

Participant Training Approaches to Islam

We really enjoyed your lessons. We appreciate your wisdom, knowledge and humor. It was nice to see how you use this in your daily life. Thank you for sharing this with us.

Participant Training Engaging with muslims in Europe

Thanks Bert for all the wisdom and insight you've shared with us. It was really cool to see and feel your love for Muslims through your teaching.

Participant Training Engaging with muslims in Europe

Thank you for your insightful and well-rounded teaching.

Participant Training Sharing Lives

What I gained most from this course is that Islam is not a solid block, the same for everyone, but a Muslim is a human being of flesh and blood, for whom Islam has a personal meaning.

Participant Training Sharing Lives

I have learned that Islam is not that barbaric religion as portrayed in the media or other avenues but rather a peaceful religion whose image has been tarnished by a few fanatics.

Participant Training Sharing Lives

This course has really helped me to understand Muslim life.

Participant Training Sharing Lives

What I gained most from this course is my ability to see Muslims as I see myself irrespective of the fact that we have different beliefs.

Participant Training Sharing Lives

This course has helped me to build relationships with Muslim friends.

Participant Training Sharing Lives

This course has softened my heart for Muslims.

Participant Training Sharing Lives

As a result of attending this course I will get Get in touch with Muslims in my town. I already wanted to do this, but now I have a better understanding on how.

Participant Training Sharing Lives

As a result of attending this course I will embrace any Muslim who comes my way.

Participant Training Sharing Lives

A Good course that teaches you to relate to Muslims.

Participant Training Sharing Lives

What I will remember most about this course was the visit to the mosque; it was the first time for me and I liked it; I liked the conversation there.

Participant Training Sharing Lives

This is a very good course and has helped me to change my attitude towards Muslims as bad people.

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